How’s your self esteem?

1 06 2010
Self Esteem

What is your self image?

“Our esteem is linked to how we believe the most important person in our life views us.”

I heard this while recently listening to a speaker talk about the power of the tongue. In Proverbs 18:21 we learn that the tongue has the power of life and death. Depending on how we use our tongue determines whether we are giving or taking life.

The power of the spoken blessing goes back to the beginning of creation when God spoke everything into existence. We can see children in the bible fighting over the spoken blessing of their father. God’s spoken Word became flesh in the new testament in the form of Jesus Christ. Luke 3:22 shows us the power of The Fathers spoken blessing over His Son.

Each day of our lives we see the power of the spoken word all around us. So what does this have to do with self esteem? Should Christians have self esteem? Is the concept of self esteem even taught in the bible? Let’s start with a few scriptures.

Romans 12:3
Don’t think of yourself more highly than you ought to think.

This scripture leaves us with the understanding that there must be a balance applied to how we think of ourselves. Not too high, yet not to low. You might be asking: Then exactly how high should we think of ourselves? These next verses will help understand when you are to high on yourself.

Romans 11:20 & 12:16
Do not be conceited, proud, or arrogant.

If we reach the point where we become conceited, proud, or arrogant then we have gone too far. Just because you know something doesn’t give you the right to slap someone else in the face with it.

It amazes me the number of people I run into that struggle with this. If you have been on vacation to a certain city they have been there ten times and know the town mayor personally. Somehow we feel that we don’t measure up unless we have accomplished twice as much as everyone else. This is because we seek the approval of others and think we can get it by impressing them.

Matthew 22:39
Love your neighbor as yourself.

However, another problem people face today is an unhealthy view of themselves in the opposite direction. Jesus said to love your neighbor as yourself. How can you love your neighbor if you don’t even love yourself?

There are people all over this world who do not love themselves at all. For some they have been told how worthless they are since the day they were born. Others are abused and all they know is a life of hate and abuse.

Then there are those people who may not have been verbally or physically abused but they are emotionally neglected. They don’t have someone in their life telling them that they love them each day. This lack of love translates into a lack of love for themselves.

So we get this incredible understanding of love from Jesus’ words. Love is bi-directional and we get love from God first of all, then from each other. But how can we receive it from each other unless first someone is willing to give it. The giving of love has to start with you and me.

“Our esteem is linked to how we believe the most important person in our life views us.”

This saying is so powerful. Let me leave you with two questions that sum this all up. Think on these questions for a while.

1. Who is the most important person in your life?

2. What do you think their opinion is of you?

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Love Never Fails

7 10 2008

I have been studying about love for the last few mornings. Today these scriptures say it all for me.

When we say that we love someone do we really mean it according to the scriptures?

I Cor 13:4-8

4. Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous ; love does not brag and is not arrogant,
5. does not act unbecomingly ; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered,
6. does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth ;
7. bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8. Love never fails…

This really makes me search my own relationships and my heart.





Using Your Life Resources

2 10 2008

I have been listening to a series of studies that a friend forwarded to me. While I was listening yesterday the speaker mentioned something that caused my ears to perk up a little more. I skipped back a little ways on the audio player to listen again. The speaker was talking about a subject that has really been the focus of my life for the last several months. I just had not put a title on it. Now I have a title for what I have been feeling.

Several years ago I was helping out during a natural disaster. One important thing that I learned during that time was that all your resources have to be managed well. It is such an important issue during natural disasters that responders setup an elaborate system just to manage all the resources needed during a natural disaster. If these precious resources are not managed well people could starve, get sick, or even die.

Emergency responders have to manage food supplies, water supplies, equipment, personnel, and so much more. The whole process is like a large wharehousing operation and every resource is accounted for.

You may not realize it right now in your life but you have many resources that have been given to you by your creator. Each day I am given 24 hours with which I am allowed to spend freely, on anything I wish. In my life I have been given a wife and three children. I have been given friendships, jobs, talents, duties, responsibilities, families, and much more. Your list is probably much like mine. Every day these resources either get used or they lie dormant in my life.

Just in the last few days I have been cleaning out some room in our storage building. I am finding all sorts of things. I have had things packed away for years that I have not used. These are all resources that I layed down because I felt like they were not important anymore or I didn’t need them. Yes, these things are mostly junk, but the principle behind all of this speaks loudly to me and I hope to you as well.

Where are you spending your life’s resources? God has given you 24 hours in a day, family, friends, and more. What are you going to do with all these things? If you are like most of us you just exist and never consider all this. At least that is the way I have been. Now God has really been speaking to my heart about my Life Resources. In a way I have been creating a budget and schedule to spend or “use” my resources.

God is asking me:

Today I gave you 24 hours of time, what did you do with it?
I have given you family, have you taken time to love them today?
I have given you a testimony, have you used it today to lead another to me?
You have seen hurting people today, have you used your Life Resources to help them?

What are your Life Resources? Have you taken an inventory today? Use them wisely because one day they will all be gone.





Build on The Rock

30 09 2008

A few weeks ago something devestated me in my spiritual life. I found myself, as it were, in the center of a spiritual hurricane.

After the storm passed I was looking around and it was then that I realized I had built some things that I knew I should not have built in my life. My life is built on that Solid Rock, which is Christ, but I had built some other things that I thought I needed. I thought I needed a little extra support in my spiritual house so i had built up that support. I built it all up without even thinking. I didn’t realize I had even built it until the storm came along and destroyed it all.

I stood there looking through the rubble and thought to myself ‘why did I build this. This is not of God’. I put some of my faith and trust in people, and when the people failed it hurt me.

But now that all the extra ‘stuff’ I built has been wiped away all I can see now is that solid foundation beneath. God has reminded me that the storm did not destroy me because my foundation was in Christ and that still stands. Now it is time to rebuild on that foundation. However this time it is God which will do the building not me.





True Forgiveness

18 03 2008

Prodigal SonRecently heard a story of a young lady who walked away from a relationship with God. It made me think of the prodigal son, and myself.

 KJV
11And he said, A certain man had two sons: 12And the younger of them said to his father, Father, give me the portion of goods that falleth to me. And he divided unto them his living.13And not many days after the younger son gathered all Read the rest of this entry »





The DNA of Relationships

7 03 2008

If you haven’t read The DNA of Relationships by Dr. Gary Smalley I recommend you get it this weekend and start reading. I have read other books by Dr. Smalley and they have all been good but this book is definitely worth reading.

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One Hundred Eighty Three Thousand Miles

26 01 2007

RoadA while back I was working on an outdoor wireless network we have at work and had to use our bucket truck to get up to where our antenna was mounted. The bucket truck is just like the ones the electric company uses to work on electrical lines or the telephone company uses.

I had used the truck several times before but this day the engine had died and I had to call the mechanic to come get it started again. He asked me to get the owners manual out and see what year model the truck was. I found the manual and told him the truck was a 1993 model. I thought for a second about that year and began remembering what had occurred in my life in 1993. Read the rest of this entry »